Anger expressed suitably, is emotional healthy. However, many people manage the anger suppressing it too much or
expressing it in a hostile manner.
If a person
grows up in a family where
it was NOT GOOD feeling angry or
used to control other members thereof, any sign of aggression is possible due
to distresses.
Once anger
is generated, and not expressed in a constructive manner then it is difficult. This
is dangerous, can lead to health problems such as headaches, hypertension,
problems gastrointestinal, anxiety or depression.
Expressed
in a firm but not aggressively,
is the healthiest way to handle anger.
Therefore,
the goal is to learn to express clearly
and directly the concerns and needs without hurting others or trying to instill
fear about them. The uncontrollable
anger is a behaviour learned
that needs to be changed.
The
following tips may help:
1.
Stay calm
Although it sounds simplistic,
count to ten and leave the room helps to restore peace.
2.
Take a breath
Breathe deeply and rhythmically
while you relax your muscles, visualizing a pleasant scene.
3.
Positive attitude
Repeat words that soothe you. Phrases
repeated positive notes for your-self
such as "Stay calm," "I'm angry, but what! I can control,"
or "I should not let this bother me."
4. Aerobic
exercises
Walking or biking. Play any sport that
allows you to release stored energy.
5.
Good mood
Use the mood to relieve stress. Think of a story or a fun
joke. Imagine yourself or the person you're upset of, in a situation funny.
6.
Express
Talk to a friend, family member or person close, even with your doctor or therapist to let off
steam. Say "I am angry" or "I'm so mad I could ..."
will allow you to reduce your frustration.
7.
Forgiveness
Recognize that it is unrealistic to expect everyone to
behave the way you want it. If you find something offensive, learn to forgive whoever did.
Don’t
forget that expressing anger in
an explosive manner is one end of the spectrum. The reactions and blame others, will backfire if
you want to find a solution to any problem.
