How to control / fight anger?

Anger expressed suitably, is emotional healthy. However, many people manage the anger suppressing it too much or expressing it in a hostile manner.

If a person grows up in a family where it was NOT GOOD feeling angry or used to control other members thereof, any sign of aggression is possible due to distresses.

Once anger is generated, and not expressed in a constructive manner then it is difficult. This is dangerous, can lead to health problems such as headaches, hypertension, problems gastrointestinal, anxiety or depression.

Expressed in a firm but not aggressively, is the healthiest way to handle anger.

Therefore, the goal is to learn to express clearly and directly the concerns and needs without hurting others or trying to instill fear about them. The uncontrollable anger is a behaviour learned that needs to be changed.

The following tips may help:

1.      Stay calm

Although it sounds simplistic, count to ten and leave the room helps to restore peace.

2.      Take a breath

Breathe deeply and rhythmically while you relax your muscles, visualizing a pleasant scene.

3.      Positive attitude

Repeat words that soothe you. Phrases repeated positive notes for your-self such as "Stay calm," "I'm angry, but what! I can control," or "I should not let this bother me."

4.      Aerobic exercises

Walking or biking. Play any sport that allows you to release stored energy. 

5.      Good mood

Use the mood to relieve stress. Think of a story or a fun joke. Imagine yourself or the person you're upset of, in a situation funny.

6.      Express

Talk to a friend, family member or person close, even with your doctor or therapist to let off steam. Say "I am angry" or "I'm so mad I could ..." will allow you to reduce your frustration.

7.      Forgiveness

Recognize that it is unrealistic to expect everyone to behave the way you want it. If you find something offensive, learn to forgive whoever did.

Don’t forget that expressing anger in an explosive manner is one end of the spectrum. The reactions and blame others, will backfire if you want to find a solution to any problem.